Kontra do ślepego pędu rozwojowego –
that is, hear and embrace yourself with understanding.
I will start with a strong thesis and there will be a few of them in this short text. Life is not about solving a problem - because problems will keep appearing. It's not about fixing, improving yourself all the time - because nothing is broken. When I listen or read about being the best version of myself, I have an inner pain and everything twists inside me. This approach promotes dissatisfaction with ourselves as we are, so rejecting ourselves, detaching from ourselves and building some unnatural, ideal being in the future that does not exist. We all have our imperfections - that's human nature. And it is thanks to them that we can discover our inner treasures.
The more we push on a perfect image of ourselves, the more we stiffen and lose touch with ourselves. Inside there is still something knocking and saying: look at me, I am here too, I feel and sometimes life hurts. However, in the age of Facebook and Instagram, each of us compares ourselves to the others and often looking not so bright we think - I must also be a smiling star. How sincere we have become to ourselves and to others. How have we forgotten this fundamental human element that bound us together and enabled us to survive: seeing each other, our real needs, and supporting each other without the agenda of gaining anything in return.
Life is about listening and hearing yourself and others truly. Getting to know all contradictory and illogical, competing parts of yourself and embrace it all gently. Let it be, without expecting a change, but with curiosity about what it brings and what it tells us. It's not about healing yourself, but seeing yourself fully and being fully with yourself. A look at each of our masks and explore how it was created and what it is for. What are we wearing it for? What does it protect? We don't have to do anything about it, we don't have to reject anything. We give everything a space to exist as long as it is needed. And we do it with full understanding, compassion and love.
Our task is not to achieve goals as quickly as possible, but to be together and accompany ourselves on the way in successes and failures. Like a best friend who on a difficult journey through the mountain peaks says: "I'm with you. I know you do what you can. I have got your back." Important is the way we walk our walk, not its final destination. And the more we walk with love and understanding, the more valuable places we will find that are in line with who we really are. And the closer we get to ourselves and our values, the less often we will struggle with making decisions or solving problems, because our clear perception of what is right and good will be our clear signpost.
Maitri
Do you already?
