{"id":10438,"date":"2025-08-10T10:02:34","date_gmt":"2025-08-10T08:02:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/?p=10438"},"modified":"2025-08-11T07:37:15","modified_gmt":"2025-08-11T05:37:15","slug":"transakcyjny-model-milosci-dlaczego-trudno-nam-wierzyc-w-bezinteresownosc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/transakcyjny-model-milosci-dlaczego-trudno-nam-wierzyc-w-bezinteresownosc\/","title":{"rendered":"The Transactional Model of Love \u2013 Why We Find It Hard to Believe in Selflessness"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-group is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-core-group-is-layout-8cf370e7 wp-block-group-is-layout-flex\">\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"translation-block\">Many people perceive love through the lens of exchange \u2013 we give something to receive attention, acceptance, and a sense of security in return. In this perspective, love is often based on meeting mutual expectations. If a partner stops providing what the other person needs, there is a feeling that love has faded.\n\n\nThis approach breeds the belief that selfless love is unrealistic \u2013 that relationships always harbor an element of self-interest. Even acts of kindness or care can be tinged with the hope of reciprocation or validation of one's own worth.\n\n\nAwareness of this dynamic can lead to two extremes: avoiding intimacy for fear of a \"game\" of self-interest, or maintaining the illusion that such a game doesn't exist. However, there is a third path \u2013 recognizing the imperfect, human nature of relationships and building bonds based on honesty about mutual needs.\n\n\nThis approach allows for encounters with gentleness, kindness, and mutual respect, without pretending that desires and expectations disappear. Instead of struggling with the transactional dimension of love, it can be framed in a way that fosters closeness and mutual understanding.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\r\n<\/div>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; Wiele os\u00f3b postrzega mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 przez pryzmat wymiany \u2013 dajemy co\u015b, by w zamian otrzyma\u0107 uwag\u0119, akceptacj\u0119 zy poczucie bezpiecze\u0144stwa. W tym uj\u0119ciu uczucie cz\u0119sto opiera si\u0119 na spe\u0142nianiu wzajemnych oczekiwa\u0144. Je\u015bli partner przestaje dostarcza\u0107 tego, czego druga strona potrzebuje, pojawia si\u0119 wra\u017cenie, \u017ce mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 wygas\u0142a. Takie podej\u015bcie rodzi przekonanie, \u017ce bezinteresowna mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 jest nierealna [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5929,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10438","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bez-kategorii"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/39B428E9-9082-4699-B6BE-DC46DCB0C4F8-scaled.jpeg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10438","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10438"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10438\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10581,"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10438\/revisions\/10581"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5929"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10438"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10438"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/maitri.com.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10438"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}